Margie and Blair’s Fall Boot Camp (Warning Explicit Content)

As many of our friends know, as well as many of our readers, Margie and I have been practicing Domestic Discipline Boot Camps for the last three and half years.  This was mostly from reading about them from Chelsea and Clint at LearningDD.com.  Using their experience as a loose template we have been doing them twice a year, faithfully; one in the late Spring and this one that occurs in late Fall.  Both of us are going to give our input about how we feel about them, because we believe that this boot camp was particularly epic and has moved us to another, much needed, level in our Domestic Discipline experience.

One of the things any DD couple struggles with is consistency.  Ironically, despite the fact that boot camps are supposed to help that (which they do and have done), we discovered that our boot camps themselves were becoming less consistent.  We have loved so much the connecting and the love and the joy of the bootcamps that they have become retreats.  Yes we get some good work done, but we felt like we were getting into a rut after our 6th one in May.

We are an experienced couple in DD, so much so that we run a spanking therapy ministry and give talks about our experience with others.  Having said that, we looked at our most recent experience and realized that both of us were afraid to move forward.  While we love Clint and Chelsea and what they do and suggest, we had become too dependent on their advice and our boot camps lacked the intensity they had the first year that we did them.

So in the weeks leading up to this one, we both agreed that we needed to make some radical changes in how we did our Boot Camps.

Hi, this is Margie.  Sir wanted me to comment on what was far and away the toughest, most intense Boot Camp that we have ever done.   Our Boot Camps center around four themes.  All of them are distinct and yet all of them are interwoven.  They are Our Relationship with God, our family life (including a reexamining of the house rules for me and the kids), Sir and I’s sex life, and our DD lifestyle.  Without question, these are the four most important facets of our life and we don’t shrink from them.

I am 33 years old and Sir is 40.  Our beliefs, while fairly cemented in our faith in God, have been colored by the ministries we have been involved in and the expectations churches, pastors and denominations have put on us.  Ironically, one of the most Christian things we do, spank as a loving form of family life, is completely shunned by the majority of the Evangelical community.  We aren’t bitter about it, but there were truths that came out at our Boot Camp that were as much shocking as they were liberating to us.  We don’t expect other Christians to even believe what our theology is.  God knows our hearts and He loves us even if we are wrong.  He knows that we are pursuing Him in what we do.

It is important because on this boot camp we prayed and felt released to explore things that wouldn’t necessarily be embraced by the greater Christian community.  These were things that were directly affect the other three facets of our life… sex, family rules, and spanking.